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reflections - sending out loving kindness to the world

It's been an emotional week this week, in a lot of ways. I don't think that there are any of us, reading this, who have failed to be touched by the events that happened in London on Thursday, in some way. I was actually in London on Thursday, on an NLP course, in Hammersmith, and as reports started coming in, one of the first thoughts was letting my loved ones, friends & family know how I was, and that I was safe and away from the trouble. Amazingly on the course, we spent some time sending out light ito the universe to help with the healing of the city. It's been a powerful testament to the people this week I think the way that the media has reported on the bombs & the reaction of the people of London. Even in the midst of such terror and pain there has been tales of support, sharing, community, and wanting to continue with life. So, a thought for all those who have died, or are ill, and a sharing of community for all of us.

One of the most important things I have got from this weeks events is to always speak from the heart, in everything that we do. It shouldn't take a major event to do that, but so often it's easier not to have those conversations, or to continue in the traditional "English" way of doing things. This week, I'd love you to focus on sharing your emotions with those who are important to you, the more we all do this, the less likely it is that those who want to spread terror will win. From my heart, and thoughts on the event, to yours - I hope you find these tips useful....
•take the time to tell those who are important to you that you love them. Remember that saying, don't let the sun go down on an argument? I heard a great continuation of this earlier in the week, that when people die we grieve the most when we have not told them everything we wanted to say. Who do you need to have conversations with to release that pain?
•Open yourself to the positive - spend your time with people who are important to you & who focus on the great things that life has to offer
•Notice the abundance around you. I regularly share with a friend the top 5 things each day that make my day great. What would this mean to you? It can be as simple as a cup of tea, a walk in the park or time with family & friends.
•Let the past go. So often we hold onto the negative baggage from the past, and this stops us having spare hands to grab the opportunities that come up for us
Tell the people that you loveI'd love to share with you a meditation practice that I use (through the buddhist centre) that really spoke to me this week. Using your own meditation practice, or whenever you have a quiet time... ...focus your thoughts on yourself and send out loving thoughts to yourself. Why do we keep all that negativity around ourselves? I love the quote from Marianne Williamson that some of you may be familiar with, that speaks about us all being children of God. As children, we loved ourselves and those around us unconditionally. Remind yourself how great you are, how safe, how loved, well and healthy.
...choose to send out loving thoughts to someone who is important to you - you'll already know who this is. Maybe it's someone who has been having a tough time, maybe just someone you want to send some positive energy to. ...send out your loving kindness to someone you meet, but don't know that well. Maybe it's your milkman, or the postman, or the chap who drives the bus who gets you to work. Just send out that positivity...
...use your loving kindness to heal the conflict inside of you that you may have with someone else. I've been learning this week that perception is projection - that we see in others something of ourselves. Isn't it nicer to think that we see just great people, as that tells a lovely story about ourselves? Choose to change your perception this week, and maybe those negative projections will change too....
Finally, send out loving kindness into the universe. Expand your thoughts from you and yours, to the room, your house, family, village, town, England, Europe.....as far out as you can, all the way through the galaxy. Think if there was all that positive emotion going around, if everyone was doing this. Would that have an effect on the world?



About the Author
Claire Chapman is the director of The Fabulous Coaching Company, and through the power of coaching helps professional women live lives that are meaningful and congruent with their values. To find out more or to book an initial no obligation consultation email info@fabulous-coaching-company.com, or call 01949 837247. For more information on The Fabulous Coaching Company you can also view www.fabulous-coaching-company.com.


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